Ending Personality Conflict

“It’s okay to see things differently or disagree but how we handle it makes the difference! Our difference doesn’t have to become division and disrespect with each other!
“Healthy Communication is the key”
Eph. 4:3

Endeavor means what? To exert oneself to do or affect something; make an effort; strive: We must constantly endeavor if we are to succeed.

Unity of the Spirit – If led by The Holy Spirit he unites believers to the word and will of God.
In the bond of peace – The connection with God that enables us to be carriers of Peace. A position that is calm and in harmony with the will and Spirit of God.

The result of conflict is due to something imparted, interchanged, or transmitted to another party that disagrees. (Help Me Lord! Ps. 141:3)

Communication is the imparting or interchange of thoughts, opinions, or information by speech, writing, or signs. (Model of prayer for good speech Ps. 19:14) * Pr. 13:3

Often time it’s difficult to end personality conflict because it often times ignites when there is difference of opinion, disagreement or no respect for your fellow brother or sister.

1. Courtesy – 1Peter 3:8
A. We all need to be courteous, respectful, and considerate in our action or expression towards one another.
B. Christians should not be discourteous toward those who disagree with them; they should neither shun them or treat them rudely.
C. Consideration of the rights and feelings of others is only the beginning of Christian love. * Courtesy and respect go hand and hand (Heb. 10:24).

Household personality that often times exist:

The Passive person – relaxed and inactive in response (let it role off their back) non-confrontational.
The Aggressive person – belligerent, antagonist and forceful in their approach. Their one always right.
The say what’s on your mind person – This how I feel regardless if it’s wrong or right, I’m going to give you a peace of my mind.
I don’t have anything to say person – I’ll hold it in until you get on my last nerve.
The Serious or Stand up Person - I don’t take any mess off anybody. I’m the wrong one to mess with and don’t talk to me any kind of way.
Self-controlled person – looks for a righteous way of responding and handling inappropriate communication or conduct in order for God to get the glory. Jam. 1:19

2. Speak in love to people.

A. You can speak the truth in love, not harshly. Eph. 4:15
B. Control what comes out of your mouth. Eph. 4:29
C. Purpose to avoid harsh words – Pr. 15:1

3. Learn to compromise! Rom. 12:18

People who are set in their ways, stubbornly clinging to their own ideas, thoughts, theology or beliefs regardless of the effect upon other, are unhappy and have many conflicts.
If you find that your kids, spouse or co-workers don’t like being around you don’t say to yourself, “their jealous of how talented and smart I am”.
When each person is willing to give a little, disagreement can usually be resolved (1Peter 5:5)

4. Will to be Christ like (what we lack in relationships, families and leadership many times is the lack of Christlikeness)
A. To be Christ like we must walk in love, sharing Christ by giving of ourselves – Acts 3:6)
B. Christ likeness doesn’t mean that you don’t stand up for yourself but it is the most effective way to end relational conflict. (1Peter 4:8)
C. Never have an, I don’t care attitude towards what or how your brother feels because that’s flagrant disrespect to God.